Relationships

Relationships are not easy. Although everyone desires them, they normally end up with one or both parties being unhappy, after it seemed to have started so well. In many or most relationships people do not know how they arrive at a place of unhappiness based upon their decisions in the beginning of the relationship. This has to do with both friendships and serious relationships. In most cases, if you did not learn from your previous relationship(s), when you enter into another relationship, the result will end up being the same -- unhappiness and lack of fulfillment, and you will live a life of confusion and pain.

Errors can be very painful, especially in relationships. In life, sadly, you can perfect an error. How can this happen? Please allow me to explain. If you are doing anything in your life the wrong way and have not been successful in that area, but are continuously working on improving this wrong-action with the same approach to it, you are perfecting an error. For example, if you are always getting into new friendships and/or new relationships by doing whatever the people ask you to do for them, and your relationships end up making you feel drained, but you continue to try to improve doing whatever a person says, or possibly doing more for people, you are perfecting that error. This is not the way a relationship will work properly or last. You will be drained every time, because you haven't fixed the part of you that gives everything to another person -- no matter what. You just improved it by trying to give more, which makes things worse, and brings you back to the same state of being drained and feeling empty. Relationships must fill us up as well.

If you go into friendships and relationships to see what you can get from people, and your relationships continuously fail, and you try to improve what you can gain from the next friendship or relationship, you will be perfecting that error. It is not important to see how you can improve on gaining more from the next person, when the previous relationship was formed on you being the only one receiving from the other party -- and rarely -- if ever, you were pouring into them.  You might feel good because you got what you wanted from them, but the other person will feel drained, weak, tired, and not want to continue because you have taken their strength, finances, happiness, focus, and possibly many other things from the taking spirit you have. You must ask yourself, how much do I get in a relationship compared to how much I give and pour into one? If you join relationships only to gain, it creates an extreme imbalance, which will never work. It may seem to work for you, but the person and/or people around you will always feel draind after experiencing how much you have taken from them. The people may not tell you, but if you are not concerned about your partners health, focus, finances, whereabouts, and only your gain -- you will drain and ruin the relationship. And the other party will begin to realize there is no return on their investment with you.  Just you gaining and benefitting from them.

After illustrating a couple of examples of perfecting an error and display of imbalance, I hope your eyes have been opened to what most people are doing in relationships, and partially why they are not working and/or fulfilling people anymore. There is much more to this very serious topic the Lord has put on my heart to write about.

Relationships are the nuts and bolts of life. If you do not know how to operate within them, and know what to look for in a mate, or friend, you will live in a perpetual state of disappointment. You will also live day-by-day perfecting multiple errors in your approach to, and in, relationships. Living in a sad cycle that you will get locked into, creating relationships with the same people dressed in different clothes, but have the same personalities. A personality you can always take from, or a personality that always takes from you.

Once you lock yourself into a habit for years, it becomes comfortable to you, no matter if it causes you pain or not. The longer you perfect an error in this part of your life, you will be more afraid to trust, be honest, love, and be free in any serious relationship you have or are in right now, because your relationships will always end up having an empty feeling.

Locking yourself into a continuous bad relationship habit, will blind you into believing there is no such thing as healthy and/or fruitful relationships anymore, and that you possibly do not deserve one. It will essentially strip your hope away.

But, there is a God...