One of the biggest parts to finding your identity is to create rules and laws for yourself. I have found that a number of people who do not know who they are do not possess laws that govern their daily choices. Rules and laws are integral in shaping and molding ourselves into what we want to become in our future. If you do not have any rules for yourself, how will you know what you stand for, where you are headed, or what you will or will not do? This is very important. When an individual knows what they stand for, they are not easily moved or influenced by peer pressure or suggestions that do not fit into the description of what they want or intend to be. If you are serious about developing a body that is well-conditioned and highly tuned, you will not allow others to influence the type of foods or drinks you will eat. You will do your research to understand the best foods (e.g., fish, fruit, vegetables, starches) to put into your body that aide in your intention of being extremely fit. You will maintain a governing system to achieve this goal and new lifestyle. The governing system I am speaking of has to do with rules. This is paramount in finding your identity.
Finding your identity is about what you want to be identified as. Do you want to be identified as someone who is fit and well-conditioned? If so, rules must be placed in your life and kept. How about being identified as marriage material? This takes rules. If you do not keep specific rules your identity will not be what you set out for. You will just be in the room of wanting and not moving and molding yourself into something specific. If a woman wants to be identified as a good wife, she will place strict rules on herself to embody that title. She will intentionally keep values to identify herself as such. The Bible has many rules for women who want to be identified as a good wife. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life (New International Version. Proverbs. 31.11-12). These are rules that aide in being a good wife.
Many people live life without rules and wonder why things continue to go in a direction they do not want. You will continue to be frustrated and upset about others and how your life continues to go living in the absence of definite rules. When you have rules you have direction. Direction gives you stability and understanding. When a person is stable there will not be precipitous ups and downs in their lives. Not knowing who you are based on rules guarantees a future of disappointment and sadness. If you continue to have inconsistency and imbalance in your life, ask yourself what your rules and standards are in the area of life you continue to encounter hardships. This is a vital question for clarity. Clear direction goes back to values and standards. These things are attached to discipline. If you have rules and do not keep them, you do not have any rules at all. If you make rules, you must keep them if you would like to find your identity.
Finding your identity is actually a molding process. It's an elimination and replacement game. Eliminating things from your personality that are placing you in situations that cause ruin or problems for you, and replacing them with clear rules that when kept push toward the identity you desire. An example of a significant problem lots of people struggle with is procrastination. This personality trait can be one of the hardest things to break in our lives. It is hard to break because it has become a habit in the lives of people that is so strong it is fiercely challenging to correct. It is not that you want to be late so often. It is that you have been late so many times over years and years, the habit of tardiness has become your identity. If you have procrastination issues the only way to fix it is with new rules. If you come up with the proper rules to correct it, and keep them, you will destroy procrastination in your life. Getting up earlier; Having a plan for your day or week; Keeping your word; Putting your clothes out the night before for school or work. Keeping standards like these will obliterate procrastination over time.
It takes courage to take the step to find your identity. The reason why it takes courage is because the old you is going to have to leave and a new you must emerge. You're going to have to change how you see things and conduct yourself. This is guaranteed if you place rules upon your life and keep them. The bible talks about changing and becoming new. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here (New International Version. 2 Corinthians. 5.17)! This is all part of finding your identity.
When you find your identity, life becomes smoother and much easier. Ever been to a town with little to no crime? It is because of the adherence to the rules, laws, and standards that are in place by the citizens. This obedience gives the town an identity of a safe place -- one of order, exactly what we are speaking of. By no means, am I saying that challenges disappear with rules and standards. I am saying that with rules you will have a compass to guide you, which will eliminate the disasters that used to easily trip you up in your past. Having rules and standards gives you clarity and direction. When you know who you are and where you're going in life, your mind, body, and soul are all happy for it. Regardless of what you are doing in your life currently, you are identified as something to the people who know you (e.g., goofball, consistent, tardy, talkative, loyal, gullible, liar, shy, crybaby, rude, kind, smart, etc). Take a look at your life and write down what you would like to be identified as. When you write these titles down, begin to make a list of what rules you must embody to uphold that specific title or titles. Work on this daily and begin to implement your new rules and standards into your life. If you can stick to your new rules and what you want to be identified as, you will begin to see a change in yourself and your life. You will begin to hold your head up higher, embodying confidence and self-esteem. A new you will spring up. This is where you will begin to have less issues and disappointments. You will begin to see things differently.
Life is not easy. But, it is less stressful when you keep rules and standards. Let Jesus be your guide and place healthy standards and rules into your life to stop inconsistency and frustration. Jesus has a job to get you the right identification. Be patient and continue to pick yourself up on your way to this new you. A better you. The Bible is all about rules and standards. The people who know how to obey the Bible's laws and rules best have the most peace in their lives. All of the secrets to life are waiting for you to use them. Start with a few rules in your life today. You can do it. It's just a matter of utilizing them.
Finding your identity is about what you want to be identified as. Do you want to be identified as someone who is fit and well-conditioned? If so, rules must be placed in your life and kept. How about being identified as marriage material? This takes rules. If you do not keep specific rules your identity will not be what you set out for. You will just be in the room of wanting and not moving and molding yourself into something specific. If a woman wants to be identified as a good wife, she will place strict rules on herself to embody that title. She will intentionally keep values to identify herself as such. The Bible has many rules for women who want to be identified as a good wife. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life (New International Version. Proverbs. 31.11-12). These are rules that aide in being a good wife.
Many people live life without rules and wonder why things continue to go in a direction they do not want. You will continue to be frustrated and upset about others and how your life continues to go living in the absence of definite rules. When you have rules you have direction. Direction gives you stability and understanding. When a person is stable there will not be precipitous ups and downs in their lives. Not knowing who you are based on rules guarantees a future of disappointment and sadness. If you continue to have inconsistency and imbalance in your life, ask yourself what your rules and standards are in the area of life you continue to encounter hardships. This is a vital question for clarity. Clear direction goes back to values and standards. These things are attached to discipline. If you have rules and do not keep them, you do not have any rules at all. If you make rules, you must keep them if you would like to find your identity.
Finding your identity is actually a molding process. It's an elimination and replacement game. Eliminating things from your personality that are placing you in situations that cause ruin or problems for you, and replacing them with clear rules that when kept push toward the identity you desire. An example of a significant problem lots of people struggle with is procrastination. This personality trait can be one of the hardest things to break in our lives. It is hard to break because it has become a habit in the lives of people that is so strong it is fiercely challenging to correct. It is not that you want to be late so often. It is that you have been late so many times over years and years, the habit of tardiness has become your identity. If you have procrastination issues the only way to fix it is with new rules. If you come up with the proper rules to correct it, and keep them, you will destroy procrastination in your life. Getting up earlier; Having a plan for your day or week; Keeping your word; Putting your clothes out the night before for school or work. Keeping standards like these will obliterate procrastination over time.
It takes courage to take the step to find your identity. The reason why it takes courage is because the old you is going to have to leave and a new you must emerge. You're going to have to change how you see things and conduct yourself. This is guaranteed if you place rules upon your life and keep them. The bible talks about changing and becoming new. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here (New International Version. 2 Corinthians. 5.17)! This is all part of finding your identity.
When you find your identity, life becomes smoother and much easier. Ever been to a town with little to no crime? It is because of the adherence to the rules, laws, and standards that are in place by the citizens. This obedience gives the town an identity of a safe place -- one of order, exactly what we are speaking of. By no means, am I saying that challenges disappear with rules and standards. I am saying that with rules you will have a compass to guide you, which will eliminate the disasters that used to easily trip you up in your past. Having rules and standards gives you clarity and direction. When you know who you are and where you're going in life, your mind, body, and soul are all happy for it. Regardless of what you are doing in your life currently, you are identified as something to the people who know you (e.g., goofball, consistent, tardy, talkative, loyal, gullible, liar, shy, crybaby, rude, kind, smart, etc). Take a look at your life and write down what you would like to be identified as. When you write these titles down, begin to make a list of what rules you must embody to uphold that specific title or titles. Work on this daily and begin to implement your new rules and standards into your life. If you can stick to your new rules and what you want to be identified as, you will begin to see a change in yourself and your life. You will begin to hold your head up higher, embodying confidence and self-esteem. A new you will spring up. This is where you will begin to have less issues and disappointments. You will begin to see things differently.
Life is not easy. But, it is less stressful when you keep rules and standards. Let Jesus be your guide and place healthy standards and rules into your life to stop inconsistency and frustration. Jesus has a job to get you the right identification. Be patient and continue to pick yourself up on your way to this new you. A better you. The Bible is all about rules and standards. The people who know how to obey the Bible's laws and rules best have the most peace in their lives. All of the secrets to life are waiting for you to use them. Start with a few rules in your life today. You can do it. It's just a matter of utilizing them.
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